Pinup Review: Lady V London Elegant Floral Border Tea Dress

Bottom line up front: I recently bought my first Lady V London dress during their massive summer sale and let me tell you, I’d have paid a lot more for this dress had it not been on sale and it would have been worth every penny.

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I’m not kidding. And that is coming from someone who has a hard time spending money on herself! I absolutely love this dress and I got a ton of compliments on it while I was out and about today. Lady V London is the definition of high quality as far as I can tell from this first purchase. In fact, I was so impressed by this dress that I’ve already ordered another one in a different style (the Nancy in purple butterfly border if anyone cares to know) and will definitely be purchasing from them again in the future. Now, onto the dress!20884886_10155702148357112_1480848557_n

It’s a beautiful true white color that, surprisingly, doesn’t wash out my practically milk pale skin. The oranges and blues pop incredibly well and the pattern is bold without being overwhelming. The fabric (a poly blend, if memory serves) is incredibly soft and breathable. It also feels sturdy so I’m not worried about snags at all like you sometimes do with soft fabrics like this. The dress also arrived quickly (just about a week) for something coming from the UK and wasn’t wrinkled at all when it came out of the packaging. I didn’t see any kind of loose strings around the seams either, which is always a wonderful sign of quality in my book.

I paired the dress with an orange petticoat from Manfei that I got off Amazon and (despite having a very lazy hair day) an adorable orange hair flower made by Daydream Seeker on Etsy. You could also pair this dress with blue accessories if you wanted but I thought orange would be a little more fun for summer.20916756_10155702148422112_1988148665_n

Tchuss!

Ursula

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Migraines and the SAHM

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As a stay-at-home-mom to a 2 year old girl, I accept that there is nothing I can do about screeching. Whether it be happy squeals or angry, high pitched screams, my day is full of very loud noises. After all, I don’t refer to my daughter as The Noisy Thing for nothing! Unfortunately, as a migraine sufferer, sometimes accepting those screeches is damn near impossible. Toddler tantrums are enough of a pain on a good day but on a migraine day, they make you want to vomit. Literally. On a good day, there is nothing sweeter than hearing your child laughing and hollering with joy but on a migraine day, squeals of delight feel awfully similar to those tantrums we were talking about earlier.

If you’ve never had the “pleasure” of dealing with a migraine, let me paint you a picture. It starts as a gentle throbbing in the temple or between the eyes. You rush to take Excedrin or Tylenol as quickly as possible and hope that you caught it in time. On a good day that nips it in the bud and you continue on about your day. On a bad day the throbbing becomes a hot, sharp, stabbing pain that I imagine is something akin to having white hot lobotomy needles inserted into the inner corners of your eyes and pushed upward through the top of your skull. At this point, light becomes nearly impossible to bear and every single noise above a level-two volume on your phone instantly makes you instantly nauseated. You have medication that can knock the migraine out but, unfortunately, the medication also knocks you out. Within 10 minutes of taking the medication you are light headed, sleepy, and kind of confused so all you can do is sleep.

And therein lies the problem as a stay-at-home parent. When you are the primary care giver you can’t just take the medicine and go to sleep because you have to be functional in case your child gets hurt or needs something to eat or drink. Plus, if your child is young like mine, they have zero comprehension of what is happening to you and are unlikely to be quiet enough to let you rest so you’d be likely end up being more miserable since the medicine has such a disorienting effect. I am so incredibly blessed that The Noisy Thing seems to sense when I’m not feeling well and gets extra cuddly on those days. She’s still just as screechy, but I can’t complain too much because she really does try to be sweet.

I can’t tell you how many days I have had like the one described above. On those days, I feel weak and like I’m a horrible mother. Those are the days I have to put The Noisy Thing in her high chair, in front of cartoons with her crayons and paper so that I can go lay down in the shower with the lights off and cry. I write this post because I want all you migraine mommies (and daddies as Hubby is also a sufferer so I know it goes both ways) out there to know that you are not alone. If you feel like you’re failing or like you are inadequate because of this miserable affliction, I want you to know that you’re not. You are just a wonderful of a parent as non-migraine parents, you just have to try a little harder on the bad days.

 

 

 

 

 

XO,

Ursula

A Beginner’s Guide to Pinup Hair

I have loved vintage inspired clothes for a very long time but, until recently, had no idea what I was doing when it came to hair and makeup so it wasn’t until very recently that I was able to fully embrace the aesthetic. The makeup was easy to learn because I don’t go too crazy with it but the hair… boy was that a learning curve! I’m still trying (and failing at) new things and I doubt I’ll ever stop learning (or failing). If you love the style but have been too nervous to try, let me put your mind at ease: I struggled just to straighten my insanely thick hair before I set my mind to learning pinup styling. Seriously. It always came out poofy and had a slight wave to it no matter how hard I tried so you can trust me when I tell you that if I can do this, so can you!

Before I start this quick tutorial, I have to ask you to forgive me something… I accidentally let the movers pack both my sponge rollers and the tripod for my camera… I know, I’m the worst, but I didn’t want to delay this post long enough to wait for the tripod and I figured it wouldn’t be the end of the world to do a tutorial using the curling iron for ladies that don’t have rollers or don’t want to sleep in them. And a couple of the pictures turned out a little blurry due to lack of tripod…sorry! If you want a tutorial on doing a sponge roller set I recommend Miss Victory Violet and By Gum, By Golly. These tutorials along with asking a ton of questions are how I learned. Because I am currently growing out an asymmetrical cut with an undercut (it was easy to maintain and kept me from overheating before I started doing vintage styles since I mostly just threw it up in a top knot) so that I can get a proper midi cut, my setting pattern is a little different but it is adapted from both of theirs so I will do a tutorial on how I set mine someday but, in the meantime, I’m working with a curling iron so here’s my modified vintage hair method!

When I’m not doing a roller set, I style the front of my hair before I do the curls because it’s easier to get it out of the way since I have so much hair. Today, I’m going to show you how to do bumper bangs so you’re going to need a ½ inch curling iron, a hair rat of some kind and bobby pins. For the hair rat, I’m using this Conair Vintage Roll kit. It comes with a few bobby pins but I always need a lot more so definitely have extras on hand. I know the box shows it being used for an up-do but it definitely works for this application too. You’ll also need a few sectioning clips, a tail comb, a smoothing brush, heat protection spray, and some kind of pomade (I’m using one of TiGi but I don’t care for it so am going to jump on the Suavecita train very soon).

The first thing you want to do is spray your hair with the heat protectant and brush it through evenly. Then section off the front of your hair with the tail comb. I like this section to be about 4 inches wide (basically temple to temple). Use a sectioning clip to keep this section together for the time being and then use two more to hold back the rest of your hair from the sides of your face.

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Next, remove the front clip and use a very small amount of your pomade to smooth out the section. Then take the entire section in your left hand and the hair rat in your right. Thread the hair between the strap and the rat so that about 2 inches of hair is below the rat. Wrap it up and around the rat and use a couple bobby pins to secure the hair to the rat. You’ll notice that, because I don’t yet have a proper midi cut, the right side of my hair doesn’t quite wrap around the rat at this point but this will not affect the end result.

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Once you reach the scalp with your roll, you’ll want to secure it to the head in the proper shape. This means curving it slightly to fit the shape of your head. Use bobby pins to secure the ends of the rat to the head.

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If you’re very clever, you’ll have noticed that the ends of the rat are still slightly visible because the hair doesn’t quite go to the ends of it. This is easy to remedy. Simply remove the clips from the sides of your head and use the tail comb to separate a section just wide enough (about ½ to 1 inch in my case) to cover the remaining rat. Smooth out the section with the brush once again, using pomade if necessary, and pull it up and over the rat. Secure the new section with a bobby pin to your head so that the remaining length hangs down with the main body of your hair. Repeat on the other side and then hairspray the crap out of it!

Once the bumper bangs are finished, you’ll want to brush and smooth out the main body of your hair and work in a small amount of pomade if it’s frizzy. If it looks and feels a little dry, I like to use a small amount of light oil such as shown.

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Take your curling iron and curl toward your scalp in approximately 1 inch sections, making sure to get all of the hair. You do not want random straight sections hanging down when you’re going for a nicely coiffed pinup look! I like to hold the hair on the iron for about 15 sections.

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Once everything is curled, lightly comb through the hair using your fingers to gently break up the curls. If the curls are too tight, use the smoothing brush to wrangle them into submission.

Finally, when the curls look how you want them to, use bobby pins to secure the sides and give it all a healthy coating on hairspray. And there you have it!

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See! Pinup hair may seem intimidating and it’s definitely a learning curve, but I promise that every single one of you out there reading this can do it too.

XO,

Ursula

Keeping it Together When Life Gets Crazy

Seeing as how we are currently in the midst of a transatlantic move, I figured this was the perfect time to talk about how easy it is to just say “screw it” when it comes to ourselves when life gets busy. We all do it, I know I do. We have kids to take care of, a house to clean, and errands to run so we get it done and by the time it’s all taken care of all we want to do is collapse. Days like that pretty much guarantee a makeup-less day spent in yoga pants with hair thrown up in a haphazard top knot. Sometimes these days also mean that we just don’t feel like cooking dinner and working out and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as it’s just one day every now  and then. Unfortunately though, sometimes a day turns into a week, which turns into two, and well… you get the idea.

So, why is it that we are so quick to sacrifice the few things we do for ourselves when life gets crazy?

This pinup is here to remind you that you are important and you need to take care of you. I would even argue that taking care of ourselves is the single most important duty we have as wives and mothers. I’m sure you’ve all heard the adage “you can’t pour from an empty cup” and in the nearly two years since I became a mother I have learned how true that really is the hard way. I completely lost my identity because we only had one car for a while so all I ever did was clean the house and play with The Noisy Thing. Now, don’t get me wrong, I absolutely adore my family and spending time with them is a blessing but I for a good chunk of time, I rarely went out and I felt completely frumpy so I started working out and that helped. I started eating better and that helped a little more. I started doing my hair and makeup more often and dressing in vintage styles and that was really how I clawed my way out of the ocean of self-loathing I’d be swimming in for some time.

Here’s my advice, one pinup (one mother) to another: take time for yourself every single day. I know that sounds easier said than done but I’m telling you it is absolutely doable. I work out, eat healthfully, and do my vintage stylings pretty much every day but there are times (like this month) where it is not always possible to do all of that every single day. This fact does not stop me from making at least 30 minutes for myself every day and it shouldn’t stop any of you either. Pick one thing that you do just for yourself and make sure you do it every single day no matter how insane life gets. This thing will change from day to day depending on what you need to or feel like doing but it should be something you do just for you. Make time for it. It is true, the floors aren’t going to sweep themselves but guess what? They’re not going anywhere either! Your family will survive if you delay sweeping for one day so that you can take the time to do your makeup, go to the gym, get a haircut, or whatever else you choose to do. I cannot stress enough how important this is. Let’s take care of ourselves so that we can better care for our families!

Tchuss!

Ursula

Introducing: Ursula DeLight

Hey ya’ll!

I’m Ursula and I’ll be the one (hopefully) entertaining you within the pages of this blog. I just want to use this first post to explain a little bit about why I’ve started this blog and what you can expect from it.

I am a wife, a mother, a passionate home cook, a pinup girl, and a lover of tattoos. At least, that’s what I am now. I’m starting this blog because I kind of lost myself after I separated from the Air Force a couple years ago. I enlisted straight out of high school so I suppose you could say that my job was my identity for most of my young adult life. When Hubby and I decided to start a family, it became clear to us that we could not both stay in the military because we were both in high deployment tempo careers. It simply made sense for me to become a stay-at-home-mom. I have absolutely loved being able to be there for all of my daughter’s (whom I shall affectionately refer to as The Noisy Thing) milestones but somewhere along the way, I found myself without an identity of my own. I was having trouble with my weight after The Noisy Thing was born and I never wore anything but yoga pants. Even after I got my weight under control, I struggled to figure out who I was aside from just a wife and mother.

Cue my wonderful friend Bella Bon Voyage! A few months ago Bella started her blog and convinced me that I should finally embrace the vintage/pinup style that we both loved so much because it was helping her heal from similar circumstances. And you know what? She was right! After only a few weeks of doing vintage hair styles, makeup, and clothes nearly every day, I felt like I at least knew who I was again.

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Flash forward to this past weekend: Bella convinced me to go out with her and take some fun pinup photos with her since we are moving from Germany to Baltimore next week and something magical happened. As we shot, we’d stop periodically to look at the pictures and I couldn’t believe my eyes. On the screen of that camera was a (relatively) thin woman with loads of self confidence! I could hardly recognize myself because I hadn’t felt as confident as I looked in those pictures in a very long time.

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I had thought about starting a blog for some time but just couldn’t come up with a very good idea. I have always loved cooking and have really gotten into healthy cooking in the last year or so (let me tell you, not easy for an Arkansas comfort food kind of gal!). I’m also a wife and mother and have quite a few tattoos. With this new pinup style, everything finally clicked into place and I found my niche. In the pages of this blog, you will find recipes, musings on family, and posts about my personal style. I do not claim to be an expert in any of these things but I am passionate about them all!

XO,

Ursula

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All Photos Credit: You Are My Sunshine Photography